I’ve never been big on New Year’s Resolutions. Better to live resolve on a daily basis has been my mantra. However, regular goal setting and reviewing your results is a positive and necessary thing. So, this year, I have a few resolutions, goals, pursuits, and decisions to live by.
- Say “I love you!” more often. To be passionately open about the people and causes I care about.
- “Screw you!” more often. To not tolerate BS, negativity, or toxic people making life miserable. Not necessarily to literally say, “Screw you!” in such strong terms, but certainly to say “no” more often and not get entangled in situations or with disagreeable people. There are a couple of people in mind who regularly call and say, “I need to talk to you.” The most painful moments in my life over the past four years started with those words over the phone. I will not necessarily speak rudely to those particular trouble makers, but I will certainly say, “I have no need to speak to you. Good bye.” Brene Brown’s new book, Braving the Wilderness speaks to this: “Speak truth to BS. But be civil” and “[have a] strong back, soft front, [and a wild heart].
- In the spirit of Sarah Knight’s book, The Life–Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck, I intend make better use of the time I have by spending with people I really want to be with doing the things I want to do, Sarah does a great TED talk on the matter.
A final quote from Brene Brown’s new book, from the first paragraph on the back cover summary: “True belonging is not about fitting in, pretending, or making people around us comfortable because that’s safer… [it] requires us to be vulnerable, get uncomfortable, and learn how to be with people without sacrificing who we are and what we value.”